Honey

Posted on 30th April 2012 in Fun with my son
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taste like chicken

 

What is becoming the norm, as soon as he saw me he said can we leave?  I was happy to do that. We hit our breakfast spot. We will finish The Muppet movie eventually, but for now 10 min of the movie at breakfast will have to do. Even though he said he had eaten breakfast, he ate 2 full-sized pancakes.

After making a pit stop, we or I should say Ajani decided that we should go to Chucky Cheese. On the way to the bus he mentioned that he wanted some cheese puffs. Inside the store I picked up the regular kind. He said “no I want those” pointing to the honey cheese flavor. I opened the bag, handed it to him. He said it “it taste like chicken” and we laughed about that. Then he turned that bag around, pointed at a word and said “honey” I was like “WOW” I then congratulated him on reading.

He took a nap on the bus and woke up when we arrived. I told him before we entered that there are rules. First: when I say we have to get off a game we will, no crying. Second be nice, and no pushing. If you break any rule, we leave. He said he understood. Inside we went.

I must say, he behaved and stuck to the rules. We played, we danced, we had pizza and played some more.

puddle mania

Posted on 25th April 2012 in Fun with my son

With all the rain on Saturday there were puddles everywhere! And we hit just about everyone. On the way to breakfast he said ‘Daddy don’t be mad at me” I tried to get what I would be mad at but no luck. We enjoyed breakfast and a movie, The Muppet movie and pancakes, which he ate most of them. After a trip around Burlington Coat Factory we went to Kmart to get a toy. Up and down we went looking for something that caught his interest. We got Mater the Matador and headed for the train.

All in all the past two weeks have been great nothing to complain or make a major note. He knows when it’s time to go and when we get close to the drop off/pick up he will ask me these questions

Are you going home?

Am I going home?

Can I come to your house and play?

Can you come to my house and play with me?

In the near future, I will be able to answer YES to 3 of those questions

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The day that should not have been

Posted on 11th April 2012 in Fun with my son

 

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Ajani and Lighting McQueeen

Last week I decided to let Ajani spend Easter with his mother and his grand dad. Since I never got a response to the text, I showed up.  When I arrived at the pick up, I was greeted with “daddy, daddy’ and a monster leg hug. Next thing he said was” I want to leave” which we did.  We had to go get my bag of goodies. On the ride there, I asked him this:

“hey buddy, thought you wanted to spend Easter with poppop and mommy”

He said yes but I wanted to spend the day with you.

That made all the stuff I’m going through worth it. He never ceases to amaze me.

 Nothing was planed and I was low on funds, so we headed out to his uncles. We enjoyed some popcorn and he fell asleep on the way.

As usual he woke up as soon as I got there. I went to get his lunch and this is what I was greeted with

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On the way to the drop off,he asked me the usual questions, but he hit me with another one; Daddy are you going to leave me?

Never, I told him, I’m not going anywhere, I’ve been here since the beging and will be here till the end.

At the drop off I was walking out the door, he called back “Daddy give me a hug, which I gave him. as I was putting him down he said Daddy give me a kiss and he got that plus a big ol’ rasberry

 

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Church Ninja

Posted on 3rd April 2012 in Fun with my son

As soon as he saw me he said Hi daddy, can we leave, (more on that!) Which I was happy to do. We were heading to my old school again. I asked him do you want to go to church for just a few min with daddy?  Yes.  Since we also decided to go to downtown, I figured we would knock out two birds. He wanted to play the cars matching game, so with him on my shoulders, and the phone resting on my head, we were off. Every time he got a match, the game makes a noise. From the time it took us to get to the El, it was almost complete. We stopped to get some juice and he saw a candy/toy machine. He picked one that had small ninja figures. He pointed to a red one and I explained to him that the one you want it not the one you will get. He put the quarter in and turned the leaver, with a little help. Ninja in hand, we set off. On the train platform, I noticed this

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another injury

He said some girls did it.

I had to take care of a personal matter, so I explained to him that we have to be quiet. He understood. He tapped me on my arm and said “daddy can we leave”. When I looked at him, there was terror in his eyes. He was visibly scared of something.  He even pointed to his ninja and said ‘daddy even he his scared.

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I was scared too!

 

We left the church and I told him that we can go to his favorite store, he got real excited.  He lead the way and we wound up at 34 South 11th St I explained to him what this building is and what happens in there. We have a little chant that we say when ever we go near that building.

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On the way to the Gallery we ran in to poles and bounced off them, he really loved doing that. (And I do too!) People were laughing and watching us bounce of them. Wandering through the Marriott, he had his cars in hand and ran them up the walls, the sides of the escalator, and surface that was in arms reach. Coming down the escalator, he saw Dunkin Doughnuts and wanted a chocolate one and was VERY specific about what he wanted. We got a cup of holes and headed to Burlington Coat Factory. The usual tour all 3 floors in and out of the isles. When we do that I point out different things or he will ask “what this daddy” And I explain what it is and all the ways you can use it.

Heading out of the store we were hit with the smell of fresh popcorn, and he wanted some. Following the scent, I tried to let him lead the way and he almost made it. Popcorn in hand, we were off to my brothers.

love that popcorn!

 When I came in with his lunch, I was greeted with “daddy daddy” and a big leg hug. We sat down to eat, but he was preoccupied. My brother just got a new sofa and he wanted to see. After going back and forth on when he can get up, he finally ate what he had to and went to test out the new sofa. It was Ajani approved! Bouncing off and on to the floor, he had a ball! And played till it was time to go.

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
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Chocolate fingers

Posted on 27th March 2012 in Fun with my son

After the pickup we headed to my old school in west philly. Our Lady of Rosary was where I began my educational journey. The name has changed, but everything is still the same. As we walked around the school yard, I was telling him about what I did here and there. Where I used to line up, play wall ball chase the girls, and roll down the incline in old carpet rolls, brought back a lot of memories.  We entered the church and waited for mass to start. I gave Ajani my phone to occupy his time. Now we have been in the church before but for some reason he wanted to leave. He was real adamant about it. We went outside and I began to question him. He said “there is a monster inside the church and he wants to get my body” I assured him that there is no monster in the church.

We were on our way to Target to find Francesco and at last, he was found! I must say that his process of choosing a toy is very calculated. There were 3 different Francesco’s to choose from. He was all by his self, paired with another Cars character and he was with Lighting McQueen and two others. He looked held all three packages and he picked the one that had all four. I tried to give him the bag. He took the cars out and gave me the bag back. On the ride to my brothers, he fell asleep.

After lunch, he was all play. He has a new thing also. I was sitting on the floor and he would run and dive on me. That went on for about 10 mins.  I was also told that he was seen in Red Lobster during the week.  I asked him about that.  This was the conversation.

“Hey buddy, heard you were at Red Lobster last week”

“Yes daddy, the lobsters were trying to pinch my hands”

“Ok and what were you doing at the restaurant?”

“Running around (with a big smile)”

“And who were you with?”

“Mommy and nala” ( DM aka the beast)

“And what did mommy tell you?” 

“Stop running around”

“And what did you do?”

“Kept running around”

I don’t have those problems when we go out.

It was time to go. I told him that we will be leaving in about 10 mins. Gathering up our things, I said ready to go? He said, give me 5 mins

We usually end our day with a couple of Hersey’s candy bars. I have the almonds, he has the plain. We talk about the day. Again he asked me if he can come home with me. While he is eating the candy, it melts on his fingers. So I went in to cookie monster voice. “Look at the chocolate fingers, I have to have them!! But he was not having that and sucked it off his fingers .

 

 

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Cheese-ie fingers

Posted on 19th March 2012 in Fun with my son

I was feeling kind of down last week. My situation hit the bottom and I could not get Ajani last week. I was bummed out. So I made sure that some of my ducks were lined up and made some delay some things. So when I saw him this week, we were both excited. He couldn’t wait to get in the door. He tripped up the steps and gave my legs a monster hug. I then explained to him about last week and apologized to him. He said that’s ok. The he said “angry birds, video and my game” I then reminded him of how we ask for things. He then asked for all three properly. I put a new Thomas movie on my phone. He got real excited when he found that.

Arriving at the Gallery, he wanted to run so we ran all through the Market East Train station. We rode up the convention center and there was an event. As we entered, we were advised that the event was closed to the public. We went through the ‘I want to go that way” for about 5 mins, then he was on the floor. I said “we can spend the rest of the day here, no favorite store, no Uncle Marks, no bike and no brownie” He looked at me held out his arms and said pick me up. You have two fresh young legs that you can walk on, want me to sell your legs? He said yes. I then made the announcement “Two fresh legs for sale only been used for 3 years” There was a group of dancers and they came over. “I could use those legs”

We went to 7-11 to get a quick bite; the daddy express was low on fuel. He saw a bag of cheese puffs and was in heaven. Walking down the street, he ate and talked to people on the street. He had cheese power all over his face and fingers. In my best cookie monster voice I said “cheeseise fingers, me love cheeseise fingers” and then proceeded to nibble on the fingers. We played outside at my brothers and his bike riding is getting better. He pedaled his bike for about 50ft and played himself to sleep.

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Angry Birds

Posted on 7th March 2012 in Fun with my son

During my miserable week, I try to cheer myself up by thinking about the fun I had with Ajani. On Sunday once again I was greeted with a big hug and a smile. I picked him up and was holding him so that it appeared that he was flying. I spun him around (till I got dizzy!) and “flew” him to the bus. On the train ride we talked. So what have you and mommy been doing? He said mommy spanked me. Why I asked. “Because I didn’t listen” I then informed him that you have to listen to what mommy and daddy tells him, and what could happen if you don’t.  He said ok I’ll start listening.

Arriving down town he asked can we go to his store.  Sure as soon as it opens. I let him lead me around and we wound up walking in circles. He wanted to go that way. Then after a few blocks, let’s go this way. Weaving up and down the streets he had fun meeting people. Everyone that talked to him he would pipe up and say “this is my daddy”.

A homeless man asked for some spare change, and I gave him some. Ajani asked why I did that. I told him that even though I’m doing bad there are some people who are doing worse. It’s ok to help people sometimes. To share is a wonderful thing. You don’t have to be nice to everyone. He then said “ I want to help people too.  There was about 20 mins before the store opened up, so we walked around the Gallery.

Today’s mission was to find Francesco Bernoulli (cars 2) and as soon as his store opened he started jumping around. As we started to go in I stopped. “Come daddy” he said.  No I don’t want to go I said. “Come on Daddy” grabbing on to my finger and pulling me. I started to “act like a little kid that did not want to go. Eventually we started our trip through the store.  Once again he was leading me around but no Francesco, at Kmart no Francesco. We’ll find Francesco I told him.

On the train ride to his uncles, he asked for my phone to look at videos. While I was fumbling with it I accidently hit the Angry Birds game. That was all she wrote. He was hooked. I tried to show him how to play but he said NO real loud. Do you want to figure it out yourself? YES! By the time we got to 69th St he figured out that you have to free the birds. I did not get my phone till I got to my brother’s house.

He hadn’t taken a nap yet, so he was sleepy and while we were waiting for the trolley, the last words he said before falling asleep was I want to free the white bird”
And on the court issue, team Thomas is 3-0 this quarter.

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Oh yea!

Posted on 28th February 2012 in Fun with my son

As I have stated before that Sunday is the best day of the week for me. It’s the only day where I feel whole. When I see Ajani, I smile and my mood changes for the better. After the exchange, we headed to the El. The conversation was about what he has been doing the past week. Lately he has been repeating his past activities. On the train he played with his game. I had to stop at the supermarket, so we played in there for a while. He was sitting in the cart and I was pushing him weaving up and down the aisles. He fell asleep on the ride to his uncles.

When we arrived is was still groggy from his nap, but eventually he came around to his happy self. Whenever I come back in from getting his lunch, I am always greeted with a daddy! Daddy! That makes me feel so warm inside. After lunch it was out side time

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smiling today

Posted on 21st February 2012 in Fun with my son, the courts, Them

That’s right and for two reasons first: I got to spend time with my son. Second: very good day in court on Monday. I did not make a post about that, still stunned. I’ll talk about it later on in this post.

With a great big hug we greeted each other. Right off the bat he asked “do you have a surprise for me”? I said not today! But I have good news; soon we are going to spend more time together. So we set off to his uncle’s house. On the train ride he asked for the Thomas game. After setting it up, he jumped right into the matching game. After about 3 rounds of that he wanted to go to puzzles. He started on level 3 and did not have a problem. He did about 7 of those so we moved on to insects, birds, and shapes. While we were doing shapes, it got interesting. I showed him a rectangle I asked “what’s this shape” he said rhombus. I got to thinking I’ve heard of that before. I corrected him on the rectangle.

Arriving at my brothers, he was greeted with the usual hugs and kisses. While we were playing his cousin Patricia had something to show us and this was it.

Painting of Ajani

“Oh the things u will see”

I was amazed; I knew she was a good artist. But this was just damn good. I showed Ajani and I asked him who is that? He said AJANI. He then asked “what am I looking at”. Patricia said “space” so the rest of the day was spend with him saying “daddy I’m looking in to space” We had lunch and played horsey and some Mario Go Kart. When it was time to leave, once again we went through it. He fell asleep on the train

 

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Feb 13th

I was nervous because with the last hearing. Things did not well at all (post: not in Kansas). I arrived at 9 am. She arrived 9:30. There was no attorney for her so I guess the money ran out. Also here two shadows were mot there either. ODD! Things are looking up!  I made a statement that I did not get any visits for the last 3 weeks. I then told the judge about the call from DHS. Then I gave the judge a letter from said agency, silence. The judge read the letter out loud. Then proceeded to ask her question that eventually lead to her being caught up in 1 lie. She was caught in another one also about the 24th of Dec.

She was found guilty of contempt of the custody order and Ms Hopson was advised that continual violations of the custody order will result to incarceration. The Judge also advised me that I WILL be getting more time with my son Saturdays with an overnight into Sunday. And eventually I will get weekends. As for the outburst and award winning performance by Roslyn Hopson here’s a little something for ya

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The judge did say something that got my interest. I should put you two in a room by your selves and hash it out. Now the only reason a judge would say something like that is: THERE IS NO LEGAL REASON FOR THIS, which is something I WANT TO DO!!  But there are two underlying factors in all this:

 

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Independence

Posted on 23rd January 2012 in Fun with my son
the waiting man

I wish they would hurry up and open

With the snow on the ground, all he wanted to do was walk and crush big pieces of snow. We arrived to get some breakfast at Tony Boys. As usual the waitresses were gawking over him. He sat and watched Day of the Diesels on my phone while the sandwich was cooking. After getting off the train in town, I let him lead the way and he headed straight for Burlington Coat Factory, but they were closed.  We walked around the Gallery for a little bit, but I could sense that something was amiss.  I asked him what’s wrong; he said “the store is not open”. He was referring to Burlington Coat Factory. I don’t know what it is about this store but he loves it. I said “well buddy the store does not open for another 45 mins. HE just stopped walking, shoulders got slack and he dropped to the ground. The same thing he does when I tell him that it’s time to go. We rode the elevators, which did not cheer him up.  Finally the doors opened and then he started to smile again! Around the store we went. There was a bathrobe with skull and crossbones on it. Hey buddy this would look good on you! He said that’s for you! (That’s my boy!)

On the train ride, he went to sleep (more late night activity). When we arrived at my brothers, I got him out of his snow suit laid him down and went to go get his lunch. When I got back, he was up and plating with his game. My brother said he got up said hi to everyone went in my bag and pulled out his game. He was playing get the letters with Mater. He was having a little trouble moving him around the board. I said “need some help?  No he said. Do you want to figure it out on your own?  Yes he said. Do you like figuring out to do thing on your own I asked him. He said YES! Independence is what it about. HE shook his head up and down. After lunch we watched football, played horse. And then it was time to go. Once again body goes limp, drop to the floor.