My Son the Stranger

Posted on 18th June 2016 in Fun with my son, News, site



I am the father of a wonderful 7 yr. old son. When we walk down the street people say “that’s your mini you” or No DNA test needed.  He is a mini me, in a lot of his mannerisms, the way he sucks on his bottom lip, to the arch in his left eyebrow even the same blood type.  I know he likes The Ninja Turtles, and a lot of normal kids’ stuff, but when he said the he likes Dr. Who, that took me for a loop!

But do I really know him?

When we are together, we talk about what’s going on at school, what he has done since the last time we were together. What has he learned? How his friends are and are there any new ones? When I ask him about home, the answers are very short and quick. He does not dwell on that subject long.  While we sit and watch TV in the evening, he uses me as a “daddy pillow” he’ will grab my arm and put it around him and hold it.  When its bed time and I put him in his bed and then I go to mine, he’ll go “why are you sleeping over there?”   Some mornings when I wake up there is a body or a head on my chest. That puts a smile on my face.

But do I really know him?

I try to get him to open up, let me know what’s on his mind. But he is confused; see he keeps getting a lot of miss information about me. He is being told that “I’m a bad person” I don’t have any friends” I don’t pay child support”.  “I’m a loudmouth and don’t care about anyone but himself” but the biggest one is “your daddy left us because he is a mean person”.  He is told that a lot. And I can see the confusion. One day we were having a conversation and this is what he told me.

SON: Daddy, I get sad in school a lot.

ME: Why? Tell me what’s going on?

SON: Mommy and Nanna talk bad about you

ME: Tell me one thing that they tell you?

SON: That you are a ugly and mean person and that you are the cause of all this

ME: Now what do you think about that?

SON: I know it’s not true but they keep saying it all the time, and when I think about it, I get sad”

I was arrested at his school on his first day of kindergarten a couple of years ago.  Yes he witnessed me getting frisked and the cuffs being put on.  When I was released, and we got together, he would not let me go, I could not go to the store to the bathroom without him clinging on to me. His reasoning was “he did not want to let go because I might get arrested again.

There was a time before he was 1 I did not see my son for about 7 months, not of my doing.  When we did get together afterwards, I got the biggest smile. Whatever discussion or person I was supposed to be listening to was gone out of my head. I was focused on him and that smile. Whenever I’m down or really mad, I think back to that smile, and I’m calm again.  Lately when we are together he has drawings about what we do when we are together, my cubicle is lined up.  Yes we get along, we have fun, and yes there are the times that he get mad at me because I’m being a father and not his buddy.

So why would I say my son is a stranger to me? I only spend 4 days a month with my son.  I have shared legal custody. Yet the courts say that I am only a father 4 days a month.  I pay $600 a month in child support, yet I’m called a dead beat dad because I asked for a reduction. I pay $196 dollars in medical insurance a month, yet I don’t even get a doctor’s report on him, yet my son tells me “you don’t care if I get sick” I let the school know that I have shared legal custody, yet when I ask for information or a conference I’m told “we gave all that information to his mother”

It is really disheartening to have some say “yes you are the father, but we don’t recognize you as your son’s father”.

So if my son is a stranger to me, I can only imagine what I am to him.

That one thing

Posted on 12th May 2014 in Fun with my son

In the middle of a new work schedule, could not post until the weekend.

Off to explore

Off to explore

Saturday was the Science Fair on the parkway, so we skipped breakfast and headed straight there. We were going to hook up with his buddy and his family. We started off with the bees and they had a section of the hive with live bees. All the kids flocked around that. There was a bowel of dead bees and the person behind the table was handing them out. Ajani did not want one first, but I put a few in my hand showed him it was ok and then he had them in his hand. We walked around exploring the different tables. Some of them there were a lot of children and he was trying to see what was going on. It reminded me of the beginning of Monsters University when little Mike was in the scare room.

lets save the bees

lets save the bees

We spent all day till it closed down and we went to his friends house and finished off the day the playing.

wish this race would start

wish this race would start

Sunday our routine is get some munchkins get my transpass and we each get a treat. Ajani usually get a toy, I get something edible.

At toys r us after careful haggling we settled on a Lego toy LegoMovie Melting Room Set 70801

one of many that I will be buying

one of many that I will be buying

There is another one that we saw, I told him that daddy is waiting on a letter, once that comes we will get that. He understood and was happy with this one. As we were leaving the gallery, got his bag of popcorn and I got a Cinabon. ON the train we were discussing the merits of what were eating and giving reasons why the others were not good.

While we were walking to his uncle’s house, he saw some flowers and wanted to get some and give to his cousin Veronica. She was surprised. He also surprised her again later on. We sitting on the sofa and she went to the kitchen. Ajani got up and stood by the door, when she came through he jumped out and her bowel of food went in the air.
On the way home, he kept asking Am I going to put it together? YES, for the thousandth time!

After dinner I started to put it together. You got to hand it to Lego, you buy a toy that YOU have to put together and can’t really play with it. Took about 45 minutes in between Are you done yet?? Evan would have been done by now. The Evan reference is to Evantube HD . Has his own YouTube channel where he reviews toys and does time lapse builds.

While I am drying him off after his bath, I hugged him patted him on his back kissed him on his forehead and I said I love you. He then hugged me, patted me on my back, grabbed my head kissed my forehead and said I love you too daddy. It’s those moments that make the fight so much more worth it

Daddy , that’s not metal!

Posted on 24th April 2014 in Fun with my son

Yes it’s been a while since I posted up anything. (Had some issues to get out of the way) Well Sat he was waiting at the door which seems to be the norm now. Before he would sit with handler 1, but for the past few times he has been at the door waiting for me. A few things I have noticed at the pick up. 1) Handler 2 stays in the car 2) when we are leaving, they usually say things like “have a good time, love you, and stuff like that” he just ignores them and we have our conversation. He doesn’t even look in their direction.  Last time we were together, he broke is tablet, so this week his first words were “did you get my tablet” I explained that I did not get the paperwork yet. I then proceeded to explain the process of returns On to breakfast!


Best Meal of the day

We usually go down town and walk around, but I want to stop by the phone store and check out a new phone. So I asked him, Can daddy go to the phone store? Yes, can we go to toys r us?  Making deals already so we headed to the phone store. To keep him occupied in the store I put on some music for him and he listed till we go to toys r us which is about 6 blocks away. I was checking the playlist; there are certain songs that he can’t hear now. All was good, he was bobbing his head, and I thought I saw a little air guitar.

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Mario Duplantier is a pretty good drummer


this is what he is listing to at the moment the picture was taken

  We went and picked up his buddy and headed down town to some children’s activities that I read about on the parkway. We walked up the parkway and there was NOTHING!!! Not a thing. Well those plans were squashed. So we walked around down town. They developed a game, “the next (fill in the blank) I see, I’m going to freak out” First I was the trees blooming, then it was motorcycles, then it was white cars, and ended up with a bus. We arrived at McDonalds, because they were giving   Skylander Giants  in the happy meals. After Lunch we headed to the playground, let them burn off some more energy. Sunday I had to get the paper work to send his tablet back and that was over his uncles. On the bus ride he said “daddy I want to listen to some metal” I was more than happy to oblige.  I set up the phone and handed him the phone. “That’s not metal” I looked at the phone it was playing RAGE AGAINST  THE MACHINE, so he changed the song , which I never showed him how to do that, he kept going through the play list ,he would listen to the song for about a minute and say that’s not metal. Judas Priest, Black Sabbath, Rage, and a few others were not metal in his ears. He found A LIFE ONCE LOST and yelled on the bus that’s metal daddy!! The song was VULTURE


He listen to the whole Hunter album twice and fell in love with A Life Once lost his favorite songs are Vulture   It was a treat watching him move his lips like he knew the words.

One thing I did observe was that the music that was basic 3 cord stuff, he did not like. The stuff that was different time signatures, and kick ass drummers, like Gojira ,Messugah , Through the eyes of the Dead and Slayer he loves that. We spent the rest of the day at his buddies’ house eating and playing. Monday I drop him off at daycare and we have quite a journey. We always stop a Dunkin Doughnuts to get some munchkins and chocolate milk. On the train he asked can he hear that song, which one I asked. The guy say “I will hunt you” actually the lyric is “ I will haunt you till the day you die”  but I know what he was talking about  he listen to that song and only that song for the whole bus ride to his school. When he got there, he asked can he show his teacher. So there he was showing his teacher the album cover and said I like this song, His teacher read what is said, A LIFE ONCE LOST,HUNTER she asked him Do you like rock and roll. He said yes.   220px-Hunter_album

Fear the fish/SSDD/Reality pt2

Posted on 9th May 2013 in Fun with my son, the courts




After our usual greeting  he wanted to go straight to his uncles house, no movies, I wanted to see Iron Man. He didn’t want to eat just, he just wanted to leave. While we were on the train he was playing with my phone sitting next to a woman. She commented on his eyelashes,”I would kill someone for those eyelashes”.  Ajani was playing a new game that he found on my phone “Aces of the Luftwaffe” I was pointing out pointers on how to play the  game, he was all ” I got it” and he was doing pretty good. He was playing the game so well and enjoying his self, she whipped out her phone, downloaded the game and stated playing. He looked at her phone and said” Daddy she ‘s playing the same game”  So together they were shooting down planes until she got off.

After breakfast he saw a Skylanders Giants poster and the toys r us. Daddy Skylanders!! he keep repeating. I then went in to spoiled brat mode. ” I don’t want to go to the store I want to go out side” and stated stomping my feet. He grabbed my hand and lead me into the store. He now has Trigger Happy and Gill Grunt. I suspect that he will have them all pretty soon.

Arriving at his uncles house he was greeted with the usual ” hi Ajani” and hugs and kisses. Mark was telling me about the award the Patricia won for her drawing of Ajani. A government sponsored are contest and She got third over all First in PA. This picture was  hanging in Washington

Boy Lilikio

Boy Lilikio

He saw the pic and said daddy I don’t like owls. I then explained that owls represent wisdom and intelligence. Daddy I like Owls was his next sentence.  He was showing everyone his new toy, when the question came up, what his name. So his cousin searched and found his name and a online game. They played that for a while and hopped on Mario Kart and Mario Baseball. He is improving on both. On the last visit, one of his cousins was teaching him a word/hand game Ricky Ticky something with some hand movement. Now she showed  three times on the last visit and he basically got it down. This week she asked him to repeat it. She started to do it and after the first three words he picked it right up going through the arm motions and the words. At one point he paused, you could see the wheels spinning as he was gathering up his thoughts.

Back at my place he wanted to play the  Skylander game so I set him up on my laptop. and we found the site. There is a Tetris type game and he started playing it he played for a couple of hours. I was running around the house.I had stopped to talk to my roommate and I heard “DADDY DADDY” in a scream. Oh what the hell happened! i ran upstairs he was jumping up and down. “I won I won I won” he keep saying and sure enough he beat the game. The next morning




She was told not to have both of them come to the drop off. That it creates a hostile environment. Well the other one got out the car and walked in to the police station. messed up yea

Reality pt2

No evidence, no witness, no nothing just a lie upon lie.

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Posted on 2nd May 2013 in Fun with my son, the courts, Them


to everyone who thinks this site is about them

Yes its been awhile since I’ve posted and there has been some changes. First off   I have Ajani on some over nights. The first morning he spent with me, I came up from starting breakfast. He was asleep and place my hand on his chest, he just smiled. That’s a keeper! The visits are wonderful we spend Sat night watching movies (the lorax ,chicken run or chicken little) and eating popcorn and lemonade.

For a while there things were happening.  A friend who I was working for passed suddenly. New and better employment and the weight of something keep me in a funk. I was thrilled to start the over night but i did not feel completed.

There were some incidents that I wanted to bring up at the court hearing that was started by her. She filed a contempt charge on me for not picking Ajani up when he had the chicken pox. Needless to say that when that was brought up the judge was already pissed. Any thing that I had  was of no concern to her.


The site came up this time, yep the one your reading. The main focus was on the page ATTACK ON THE FAMILY. I was given a lecture on my “homophobic beliefs”  READ THE DISCLAIMER, guess there there’s too much scat in there already.

Basically frustration is over come and reality has set in.

Tired of the courts they don’t care.

Reality is that my son will be living in two households and will not experience his birthright.

Reality is that some people are just that selfish.

Karma is reality


Well you can tell ev’ryone I’m a down disgrace
Drag my name all over the place.
I don’t care anymore.
You can tell ev’rybody ’bout the state I’m in
You won’t catch me crying ‘cos I just can’t win.
I don’t care anymore I don’t care anymore

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Posted on 16th July 2012 in Fun with my son


As usual I was greeted with a “hello daddy” and a leg hug. The conversation was the usual what he did in school and what he did last week. He asked for the batman movie (not the new one!) and I informed him that I had 3 new movies on my phone. With all the movies that I have on it the one movie that he asked for I did not have, happy feet 2. He settled on an Alvin and the Chipmunks batman or batmunk video. We made our little walk around down town and ended up at his favorite store. He asked “is my favorite store open? I said “take a look”.  He turned and got real happy. “My favorite store, my favorite store” he shouted jumping up and down. We rode the galley elevator to the third floor and I let him lead the way. He knows the store because we wound up in the toy section. We walked around that small section about 6 times. He was looking for something specific, but did not find it.” I want to go to Wal-mart” So we headed to Kmart. Once again he was meticulous in his toy choice.  While in the store, I found a Darth Vader mask. I said “Ajani I am your father”



He was looking for Jungle Junction; I’ve seen it a few times, good show.  With the toys in hand we went to the cashier. He said “I want to buy this”.  She scanned it and told him how much. He reached in his pocket and handed her “money” she said, “sorry we don’t take invisible money” he looked at me.

Walking to his uncle’s house we came to a corner. Ajani was on my shoulders and I asked him “what do we do at street corners?” He said “left, right” and I added left to cover our butts. I asked him again, this time he moved my head as he said it. I was impressed.

He wanted to play Mario Cart with his cousin, so that’s what he did while I ran to the store. When I came back with the drinks, Ajani was already at the table ready to eat. He enjoyed some chicken lo Mein, sesame chicken, and shrimp fried rice. I showed him how to wrap the lo Mein noodles on the fork; he got a kick out of that.


a wonderful day

Posted on 11th July 2012 in Fun with my son


Sunday’s visit was just perfect. Ajani was active and talkative. No major highlights, just a wonderful day with my son.

Am I an Asshole?

Posted on 2nd July 2012 in the courts, Them, Us


One day all the parts of the body had a meeting. The subject was who was going to be in-charge. The brain spoke first. “Without me, this body would not know what to do”.
Next were the lungs. “I think I should be in charge, without me this body would surely die.”
Then the heart, “I pump the blood through this body, I must be in charge”
This discussion turned into a heated argument with all the body parts claiming that their function was the most important, and that they should be in charge.
A tiny voice could be heard through the commotion. “I would like to be in charge”
“WHO ARE YOU” everyone asked.
“I’m the asshole”
There was a roar of laughter.
“You want to be in charge? The asshole wants to be in charge? You got to be kidding.
Why do you want to be in charge? All you do is let the waste that we create out of the body.
“No particular reason just thought I’d give it a shot.”
“We will never let an asshole be in charge” the body shouted.
“No problem” said the asshole
The body went back to its argument, the asshole closed up.
Now because the asshole was not doing its job, the body started to get sick.
The brain could not think. The heart started slowing pumping blood and the lungs could hardly take a breath.
The body pleaded for the asshole to do its job.
The asshole asked one question.
“Can I be in charge?”
Without hesitation the body said yes!!

So the asshole did its job, the body began to get better. Next time you call someone an asshole remember who’s in charge

With that being said, the past couple of week have been great with Ajani. There was a post about father’s day, but there was a server upgrade and that post was lost. Although there are a few issues that I’m going to bring up.  There is an ongoing pattern that I have take notice to, Ajani’s sleeping. He seems to take a nap usually around 10 am and sleeps for about 2 hrs. Now I don’t think that’s a normal for an active 3 yr old. Now when he wakes up, he is full of energy then he crashes. I have a problem with that. Second my son tells me that when he comes home from school, all he does is watch TV. No outside and no one to play with him. Now as a concerned parent I went to DHS to voice my feelings on a few other items, that was about  3 weeks ago, still nothing from them, not even a your full of shit. I guess the only way to get some type of response out of that origination is for me to grow some tits.

Court on the 26th

The other major item was the court date to have the PFA extended. This was the 3rd scheduling of this. I was prepared. We walked in to the court room, once again no attorney. The judge reviewed the case history. She then read the stature for having a PFA extended “The judge can extend a final PFA if s/he believes that the abuser committed one or more acts of abuse while you had the final order or behaved in other ways that indicates a continued risk of harm to the you or your child. If necessary, the order can be extended more than once. There is no limit on the number of extensions that may be granted” * 23 Pa.C.S.A. § 6108(e)”

Since I knew that I had not done anything in the past 3 years this was an open and shut case. I proceeded to get my papers in order. Then opening statements, she opened up with the same rhetoric “Freddie B Thomas has found ways to get around the PFA, he uses the fact that we have a son to contact me, and that I fear from my life and my sons life if the PFA is not extended”. Just Like they practiced. Then my turn, “with the testimony and evidence that I will present, you will deny and request that Roslyn Hopson has presented to extend the PFA.”

Now on with the show!

She then started to talk about a text that I had sent to her phone on Feb 19th. Here is the text “ajani ate 2 chicken strips acouple handfuls of low salt potato chips 10oz of choclet milk”


The judge then asked her to produce the text. I had my copies printed out. The judge mentioned that there was a full docket and that “you” Ms Hopson have a witness to testify also, still scrolling through the phones. Now you figured that a person with such a “high degree” of intelligence would be prepared and better yet know how to work a cell phone. Hell, when Ajani wants Angry Birds, all I do is put in my code and hand him my phone and within a few mins I’m hearing the sounds of birds flying in the air. It took all of about 30 mins searching through two phones for that text. One of the court officers was checking her Facebook page, me and the other exchanging stares and chuckles and the judge was knocking off cases. Finally she found it. All I did was confirm that it was the text.  The judge asked her to read the text.  She read that one plus 6 more; all the judge wanted was just the one for the 19th.  Her mother was the witness; the judge was already fed up and asked her just one question. “Have you witness and type of abuse from Mr Thomas against ms hopson in the past three years. The only thing she could say was no which is what she said. Then the judge added, “Probably because she does not show up”

Now my turn.

I proceeded to address each complaint; I said that there is a court order in place that specifies that we are to exchange information about Ajani via electronic means and produced said order. She acknowledged that. I then began to explain how I came about her phone number. I stated that I have a website up about my “trials “over the past three years and that I received noticed that her name came up in a keyword search on the site.  I followed the links and it leads me to her phone number. The court officer then handed the papers to the judge, she then handed them to Roslyn. I had to explain how keywords work to the judge.

Now we’ve all seen those priceless commercials from master card. This was one of them. As she flipped thought the papers, her jaw fell out of her mouth, rolled up said hi to the judge and made a trip around the whole family court. She was ABSOLUTLY SPEACHLESS (and that’s how I like to leave them) The PFA will expire on the 7th of July.

The Judge then thanked me for being prepared and we left. (thanks mom and dad for the Boy Scouts!)


Somewhere between an excuse and a lie
You found something that you believe
So proud, I guess I can’t imagine why
Three cheers, for what we used to be

Pathetic, Wasted, Souless, Compromised
Sleep-walking the mine field
Shit talking, it crumbles around you
It comes back around

Somewhere between delusion and denial
You’ll drown in your own sympathy
Profound, at least you thought so at the time
A ghost of who you used to be

Pathetic, Wasted, Souless, Compromised
Sleep-walking the mine field
Shit talking, it crumbles around you
It comes back around

Sunday July 1

As for the incident at the police station, to both of you “THINGS”, you really think by recording every pick up help your cause??? Boy you are really fuckin stupid! Don’t you realize that by not letting Roslyn make the pick/drop off she is creating a hostile environment? That she is the one to take the fall?? Or that’s part of your selfish plans?? Make her take the fall then you two walk away with Ajani?? Hate to tell ya NEVER GONNA HAPPEN!!!

Now about the comments that were said first on the job thing. Right now my job is to be a father to my son and to protect him, and also to thwart any of your plans.

On me being Ajani’s Father, which was the dumbest thing, you could say now that changes the playing field. If it comes out that I am not the father, it’s Christmas all over the world.

So am I an ASSHOLE for fighting for what I believe in?

Am I an ASSHOLE for wanting my family?

Am I an ASSHOLE for not doing what everyman has done in their lives, that is walk away?

And to answer the question that the police officer from the 19th district “IS that an ASSHOLE”


Yes the fuck I am! confused?

read again!

down low, too slow

Posted on 14th June 2012 in Fun with my son

While we were walking towards the train, he asked for daddy express, I told him that he’s getting too big for that. I asked him”what your legs are broken?” he said yes. I then said “well I guess we’ll have to camp out here till they get better”. So he stopped walking and just stood there, arms crossed looking at me. We stood there for about 5 minutes, finally he moved. Then he asked for daddy express again.  “Ok we have to come to some agreement. You walk one block, daddy express the next.” He agreed to that, so you can guess what happened when it came time to hold up his end. This time he held out for 20 minutes. During that time I explained the concept of making an agreement and sticking to it.

He mentioned that he was hungry so we headed towards Mc Donald’s. Breakfast had just stopped, so while we were waiting, he started to act up. Running around the food court, just being a child. We got our food, Ajani still running around. I grabbed him and sat down.  I was getting the food ready when he grabbed the fries and threw them on the floor and flashed “that smile”. I put him in a time out, he ran away, did that about 3 times. He then asked for a toy.

“After what you did this morning, do you think you deserve a toy?” He said No

“What did you do that you do?’ he said not listen.

“Can we go to Kmart?” he then asked. I said sure but you’re not getting a toy.

I let him lead the way and sure enough we arrived at the toy department. He walked up and down carefully looking over all the toys. He picked one out. I then reminded him of our earlier conversation. “I’m mad at you” he managed to get out through the crying. I said

“And that’s not going to be the last time; I would not be doing my job correctly if you’re not mad at me during the course of your life.”

There is something about the train ride that knocks him out. And like clockwork, he woke up as soon as we arrived at my brothers.  He acted up while we there and spent a good portion of the day in time out.

The highlight of the day was this: my brother usually greets him with a “give me five up high, down low (then he would move his hands) ahh to slow” This time Ajani said all of that to him.

 It is really fascinating to see him learning and picking up on life.



Posted on 3rd June 2012 in Fun with my son




The past two weeks Ajani was sick. Last week he had the chicken pox.  It was great to see him. He walked through the doors and said “Daddy” and we gave each other big hugs.  As we were walking down the street, we talked about how he spent the last week. I told him that I missed him and that I’m glad that he is all better.

He then said “daddy you have to buy me diesel 10”

Why, what happened to the one that I brought you?

He said he lost it in his room. I then went in the a brief explanation about responsibility.  He asked for daddy express and his Fisher Price Computer. That’s how we walked to the El. Talking and playing his game. On the train we sat near a poster that had a bunch of letters. I would point to the letter and he would say it. We did this till he fell asleep on my shoulder. I carried him from the train about 5 blocks, dead asleep the whole way. As soon as I arrive at my brother’s house and laid him down, for about all of 30 seconds, he woke up. And he was 100% better. The last time everyone saw him, all he did lay on my shoulder and sleep. Not today, he was all over the place and we all enjoyed it. He got carried away a few times and we had to spend a few time outs but all in all it was good to see him active. And eating!!

While we were heading back he asked me again about Diesel 10. Once again I asked him what happened to the one I brought him.

He told me the answer.  He said “mommy got mad at me and threw it away”.


recorded at the train station on the way home



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